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Friday, October 30, 2015

What is education?

Swami Sukhabodhananda answers:
 
An ignorant person does not know himself. A learned man is stupid for he knows only from books and not from his experiences.Education helps understanding that happens through self-observation. Our present education system helps us to get employment and earn money . True education helps us to understand our conflict, to understand the stupid ways of our mind, to end our hurt, and thus learn to optimise life and not be a victim of situations. True education enables you to be not a submissive person or a doormat in your office. Learn to be creative. Learn to grow in your life. Watch your mind deceiving you and then the mind will learn to be creative. Education is just not for giving you livelihood but giving you the art of living wholly and joyously . 


Source: 
Oct 29 2015 : The Times of India (Chennai)

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Women Stars of India

Emotion matters in Negotiations



Lt. Jack Cambria, the longest running head of the New York Police Depts. hostage negotiation team said that successful negotiators must, “experience the emotion of love at one point in their life, to know what it means to have been hurt in love at one point I their life, to know success and perhaps most important, to know what it means to know failure. The very good negotiators are the ones with life stories.” 

Following lessons from the NYPD’s negotiation training could be elements of successful training for professional negotiators in the business world as well.

Deal with emotions first: According to Cambria the first 15 to 45 minutes of a crisis negotiation are the most critical. Negotiation training teaches officers to “manage the emotion level first”. It can be difficult to confront emotions at the office but doing so often leads to unexpected breakthrough and promotes a calmer, more collaborative discussions.

Listen to learn: Listen carefully with the goal of identifying his key underlying problem or motivation. When we synthesize what we have heard as negotiators and probe our counterparts underlying feelings, we can get beyond simply focusing on what we are going to say next.

Build trust through small concessions: During the listening process, negotiators work to build a trusting relationship that allows for productive trade off. You can build trust in your negotiation by making concessions that are easy to give but valuable for the other party to receive.

Business negotiations are rarely the type of life and death situation. Yet as Cambria learnt in his encounters we are more alike than we are different – a fact that effective negotiation courses emphasis.
Source: The Hindu Empower, 23rd September 2015